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Will Work for Food (see column by Rochelle Riley on Page B-7 Saturday)

Submitted by Bee_Opinion on Fri, 2005-11-25 10:58.
Tasha Henderson creatively taught a lesson to her daughter by making her hold that sign.
86% (30 votes)
Tasha Henderson unnecessarily humiliated her daughter by making her hold that sign.
6% (2 votes)
I can't decide.
9% (3 votes)
Total votes: 35
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Tasha.

Submitted by Linda1 on Fri, 2005-11-25 15:34.
More information is needed to make an informed decision. I would bet this child will never forget that incident, and maybe she will have a little more respect for her parents. But, on the other hand, forcing a child to hold a sign that very well could have been humiliating, depending on the childs view, could do some harm. But, more information is needed before I will cast my vote.
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I Would do the same thing

Submitted by troygwyn on Sat, 2005-11-26 05:13.
I would do the exact same thing. My daughter already knows that I will go the lengths it takes to make sure that she will succeed in life. She will make some mistakes, but when she is heading down a path that will lead to many more mistakes, then I will do my best to step in and show her the way to making better choices.
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Will Work for Food

Submitted by momteacher2 on Sat, 2005-11-26 08:00.

I agree with this mother, she is teaching her child responsibility and accountability. In addition, she is being a parent and taking this responsibility seriously. I respect her action to ensure that her child knows what job capacity she will serve if she continues to do poorly in school.

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will work for food

Submitted by nancycline on Sat, 2005-11-26 08:23.
I agree with the mother's choice.  If the mother doesn't educate, and education starts in the home, then the daughter will be educated on the streets (certainly not the best choice).  We learned that our daughter was skipping school in her junior year.  To make sure she stayed in school, her father took a week off from worked and not only drove her to school, but attended all of her classes for the entire week.  No more problems after that!
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Will Work For Food

Submitted by Gelene on Sat, 2005-11-26 11:20.
This mother had an excellent idea! Many of our teenagers are out of control today! They don't respect their parents; nor rules and authority. We have 10 grand-children and I see evidence of this in some of them as well. If this mother was able to get her daughter's attention and help her to see the seriousness of the situation, then more power to her!
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Will work for food

Submitted by aguiniga on Sat, 2005-11-26 11:23.

I agree. It is our job as parent's to teach our childern the best way to live life so that they become responsibile adults.Education is so important. As parents we need to make sure our childern know that education is the key to life, if they don't have a good education they will not succeed in this world.I don't want my childern to live from paycheck to paycheck as many poeple do. I tell my kids all the time " you may not move from my home until you gradate collage". This is why i agree with Tasha's choice.

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Will work for Food

Submitted by cjcrowell on Sun, 2005-11-27 14:34.
I agree with this mother's action but one wonders where she was during the last 14 years when her daughter should have been learning important lessons and attitudes about being a responsible adult.
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Will Work For Food

Submitted by Wauhillau on Sun, 2005-11-27 20:19.
Someday this young lady will thank her mom for showing her that there is a consequence for making a choice, good or bad.  I was a teacher for high school students 30 years and I have seen what can happen when young students get to high school.  Some make some poor choices that the parents wouldn't dream of happening.  I know from experience that this happens and parents need to keep in touch with the school and the teachers at all times.  The fact that the mother was with the child tells me a lot.am
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Will Work For Food

Submitted by Sadie on Mon, 2005-11-28 08:53.

Humiliation is never a good disciplinary tactic. There are many other ways to teach our children and they, while needing to be educated, deserve respect.  How about restrictions- no socializing with  friends, no cell phone, no tv, no video games, no computer, no music, do your own laundry, extra chores, sit with her and help her with the work. How about positive re-enforcement?  If the strict positive discipline happens early the respect will be there later.

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Will Work For Food

Submitted by shegar00 on Mon, 2005-11-28 14:43.

Although no one wants to be humiliated, it does work and it often teaches a lesson never forgotten.  Wouldn't her daughter be more humiliated if later in life she had to "work" a street corner or hold a sign to plead for help since she didn't know how to support herself.  This sounds like a mother who had probably tried all of the conventional methods without positive results. 

I know first hand about these types of lessons.  When I was young, my father taught me a lesson I vividly remember to this day.  As animal owners, he always said "They rely on you for their food and if you always feed them before you eat, you'll never forget."  The next time I forgot, he had me wear a bandaid over my mouth for an entire day (a Saturday) to remind me what it was like for my pets.   Was I embarassed? yes.  Did I feel foolish? yes.  Did I ever forget to feed my pets again? Absolutely not! 

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Im Sorry Tasha

Submitted by chrsmtchll on Mon, 2005-11-28 23:51.
I think that degrading your child in public like that is a form of abuse. There are plenty of other ways to disapline your child if you are a good parent. Obviously Tashas mother is not a good parent. Maybe the next time she gets a speeding ticket or parking ticket, someone should make her stand at a busy intersection with a degrading sign. The only thing that degrading a child does is give them low self esteem. I truly am sorry for Tasha.
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I'm none the worse for wear....

Submitted by laceandoil on Thu, 2005-12-01 03:30.
Many times in my youth, my mother "embarrased" me into good behavior.  Taking away privledges, etc., never worked, I rebelled.  But, when my clothes were on the front lawn when I walked home from school, and all my friends saw them...you better believe me.....I kept my room picked up from then on!  And, to this day...a white glove test can be done in my home at any given moment.  (I am now 43yrs. old).  And I am a well adjusted, unscarred personality.  Kudos to you Tasha, for bringing back the parenting that is sadly missing in our society today. 
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